Re: [nukkad] MY Feelings

["Mahesh chandra Gupta" <>]

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Trishna,
It was nice to have your mail, your first mail to this list.

What you have stated in your mail is 100% correct. I fully agree. Your last
line states, is it fair? No, it is not. Your next question is: are daughters
born to parents to leave all their beautiful relations behind? I want to
respond to this last question.

1. You negate yourself. In the first part, you have said that we have all to
fend for ourselves, that we are all alone in the ultimate analysis. Then you
talk as if "all those beautiful relations", including parents, represent
eternal love, support, sympathy, help and bliss. All those people, by your
thesis [which is correct], also live for themselves alone, not for you or
anybody else. [There are any number of instances when our own exploit us.
Parents kill their dauhters, even new borns; parents and other relatives
sell daughters or force them into prostitution; parents and relatives commit
rape and incest; parents do not marry off their working daughters because
they do not want to lose her income].

2.   Your thinking suggests a black and white division of the world into we
and they; present and future. I and we and mine are good; he and they and
his are bad; the present is sweet and beautiful; the future is rough and
bad. There are many shades of grey besides black and white. My relatives may
be wicked; his may be noble. A daughter's relations may be beautiful; a
daughter-in law's may be even more so. All cards in the pack are not alike.

3. Life is worth living only when one faces challenges. It is no use living
a life eternally full of beauty and comforts. [In any case, such life exists
only in fairy tales].

4. Are boys born only to be forced to work for their parents till marriage,
wife after that, and, all the while to be reminded that they are good for
nothing if they can't earn like the guy next door? Or, are boys born only to
earn dowry for their sisters and daughters? Or, are boys born only to be
jilted by girls and, after marriage, to be deceived by an unfaithful wife?
Or, are boys born only to die on the front in the prime of their life or to
be incarcerated in enemy jails as POW? Such questions cannbe legion, for
girls as well as boys. People, attitudes, circumstances, all differ. Do not
get into the trap of generalising things.

Savour all tastes of life, sweet, sour and bitter. Keep your calm and be
happy all through your travails. When you are down, remember that there are
many more in far worse situation than you; and, that, they have managed to
survive, to win, by sheer grit, faith or tolerance.

Cheer up and go ahead with life. We look forward to your contributions to
the list.

MC Gupta
Aug 27
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From: "trishna mahal" <trishnamahal@hotmail.com>
Subject: [nukkad] MY Feelings


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At the end of the
> day u r alone to suffer. No one really can suffer on your behalf, u r left
> alone to face life, and its problems.
> As an Indian girl when u marry , u leave everthing behind 4 that one
person
> & his family, but u r never one with them.....U r a stranger in that house
> all your life and no-one cares really. No one can see your happiness, if u
r
> happy or try to do things your way then u r made to feel guilty....
> U r asked to cut all your ties from the past.....is it really fair, is
that
> why Daughters r born to their parents to leave all the beautiful relations
> behind....
>
> Me




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