Re: [nukkad] composite

["Anna Morawska" <>]

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 It is not always the same thing to be a good man and a good citizen. 
-Aristotle, philosopher (384-322 BCE)
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Hello,

To my doubt:

> > Knowing is one thing. Using the knowledge in actions and making them
efficient is another.
> > So it is never sure you will succeed in helping, even if your knowledge
is deep and wide.<

Rawat responded:

> A knowledge which is not being applied indicates lack of
> knowledge in some other area, that is the learned one's duty and
> drives for implementation. He should acquire this knowledge also.<

This is undeniable. What I meant was that you never know whether applying
your knowledge to  particular situation will bring about the wanted
result.Which is not to imply that you should refrain from implementation.

>  The crux of communication is empathic listening ( ... ). Learn this,
Practise this
> and everybody will open up. The therapists are doing exactly that
> but anyone can learn and do it.<

Even the most experienced therapists are not always successful. And not
everybody will open up.
[I am not theorizing at this point]
Again: it's not to mean 'don't try' .
What disturbs me is that there is no room for doubt, uncertainty in what you
said.
Just like instructions included in a manual.
But when it comes to real life and people's real pain, even with the whole
manual in mind you rush from one doubt to another trying to help them help
themselves.
And even if you do your best, the success is not guaranteed.

> If communication is not working, then it is not properly done.
> Empathic listening always work in such and all other situations.<

See what I mean?

> > It depends on the degree of the injured one's determination.
>
> I Would differ. It depends on the injured one's ability to find
> solution with or without help.<

If so, then why help at all? [provocation]

Still I think this ability may be limited by strong determination. Like in
those who attempt the suicide many times, until they finally manage.

> Introspect about your communication with him/ her <

I have. Countless number of times.

>I do not know but I guess that the person
> might have felt that you are not understanding his/ her situation
> or state of mind, and you are giving your suggestion from your
> situation. Thus he closed himself.<

Maybe. Or maybe not. This I will never know.

Anna.

PS: Thanks for the vocabulary appendix.


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