Re: [nukkad] co*re*

["Anna Morawska" <>]

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I wrote:

> >It seems that women owe their transformation from 'victims' to
  'perpetrators' to the tradition that which always ruled their lives, and
 which men are not so willing to change...

... and drtv asked:

> i ask why the women are not willing to change?
  why shd she met out the same treatment she got from her mil?

===> By 'change' I meant changing the tradition. But obviously it must begin
on individual level. And are they not willing? Perhaps Indian women should
answer..? I can only imagine that if I were one, I would be willing, but
what I say is filtered through different background...

Why is the same pattern repeated? Perhaps because only this one is known, or
widely accepted. And it takes some courage to oppose generally accepted
standards. One first has to get rid of the fear of being ostracised. Which
is extremely hard, as I gather from what has been said about Indian society
here.

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> after all the mother teaches the children so much.
  perhaps not so much in this " modern " society where they too work and
have
  less time for the children.
  if the mother can not inculcate good values to the children, in my mind
she
  has failed in her duty.

====> But is it only the mother's duty to teach good values to the children?
What about the fathers? Are they like stars on tournament, that are to be
watched and listened to but not supposed to have any more duties?

> if she has done so, why shd she feel so insecure so as to side with the
  males in harassing the dil? (as sam the sudden "reasoned out" it)
  does she not have a voice?
  even at that age?
  why she can't put a stop to it.
  it just takes some guts.
  i think finally it boils down to that - who has got the will power.

======> And what are the prospects of independence for a housewife who
wanted to spend more time with the children and gave up [or just never took
up] a professional career and thus is not financially self-sufficient?

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>> I am lucky to have a great mother in law.

> lucky for you.
  your mil or mr.morawska reads these mails? ;-))))))

=====> Neither. Just me and the Big Brother Norton.  : ))))
By the way, Morawska is feminine, masculine is Morawski.

PS: Why has your id reduced to ' > '   ?
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ANIRUDH:

>actually in urban India this circle is changing fast...
unfortunately it is reversing with the daughter-in-law takin it
out on the ol' lady ...

=====> Is it not how the law of action and reaction works..?
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Best,


Anna.




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