Re: [nukkad] morbid difference

["Dr.M.C. Gupta" <>]

Ref:
The feudal notion of women as property, and as repositories of family and
community honour make any inter-religious marriage risky. But when a Hindu
girl marries a Muslim, she fights not only  her family, but also the entire
Hindu-dominated Establishment.

>> Those feudal notions are far more deeply entrenched in the muslim psyche
all over the world while they are loosening in the non-muslim world of
today. EXAMPLE--Sanya Mirza has declared that, fed up of barbs against her
from Islamic radicals, she would refrain from playing any matches in India.
Have their been ANY downrating remarks by the muslim fundamentalists against
the so many muslims in cricket and film industry? No. But, let a woman come
on the scene, and if she is a muslim, hell breaks loose for her.

There is no reason to believe that a Hndu girl embracing Islam will have a
more charitable or hospitable or welcoming attitude from the Muslim
radicals. [BTW, a Hindu woman HAS got to convert before marrying a muslim
boy. AND, it is never the revese. A muslim boy NEVER converts to Hinduism
before marrying a Hindu girl. As a matter of fact, this is not an innocent
convention. It is so because Islam legally ordains so. To give up muslim
religion is a crime akin to blasphemy, punishable with death, in Islam.

MCG

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On 2/5/08, pmwalunjkar@aol.in <pmwalunjkar@aol.in> wrote:
>
>
> When a Hindu girl marries a Muslim
> There is a morbid difference between a Muslim girl marrying a Hindu and a
> Hindu
> girl marrying a Muslim.
>
>
>
> What did you see in him?" asked the
> immigration officer as he stamped Tarla Karnik-Khan's passport. He was
> referring
> to her Muslim husband. Her 10-year-old son stood within earshot.
>
>
>
>
>
>
> Tarla's family had no objections to her marrying
> family friend Rizwan, but her encounters with the Establishment have
> convinced
> Tarla that Muslims face a black, bleak future, especially if they dare to
> marry
> Hindu girls. It was bad enough that the 1984 Mumbai riots had destroyed
> Rizwan's
> home. When she and Rizwan went a year later to give notice 20of their
> impending
> marriage to the Marriage Registrar, the clerk there muttered, loud enough
> for
> them to hear, "This is happening too frequently now".
>
>
>
>
>
> There should be a special bravery award for
> every non-Muslim, especially a Hindu girl who dares to marry a Muslim boy.
> The
> latest heroine is Thane's Chaitali Shah, who had to almost fight death
> which
> came in the form of wrathful relatives, and a conniving police, to reach
> court
> and get back to her husband, Naeem Ansari.
>
>
>
>
>
> The feudal notion of women as property, and as
> repositories of family and community honour make any inter-religious
> marriage
> risky. But when a Hindu girl marries a Muslim, she fights not only
> her family,
> but also the entire Hindu-dominated Establishment.
>
>
>
>
>
> During the 92-93 riots, knowing they enjoyed a
> free rein, mobs went all out to target Hindu women who were married to
> Muslim
> men. Neighbours dragged Zainabbi Pathan by her hair, tried to tie her to
> an
> electric pole, set her on fire and then stabbed her leg to prevent her
> from
> running. As policemen watched, the 35-yearold Bandra resident begged,
> "Maaf
> karo". Her dying declaration described her plight—"They were angry because
> being
> a Hindu I had married a Muslim."
>
>
>
>
>
> Twenty-two-year-old Reshma Umar Makki was
> luckier. Only her home was ransacked repeatedly by neighbours who were
> looking
> for her h
> usband. They kept taunting her, "Why did you marry him? Couldn't you
> find a Hindu boy?" Again, the police did not interfere.
>
>
>
>
>
> Interviews with women of all ages who've married
> Muslims show little has changed over the years. In 1969, the year free
> India saw
> its first major Hindu-Muslim riots, a hesitant Neema decided to marry the
> Muslim
> man she had been in love with through school and college after her uncles,
> rich
> Sindhi businessmen, threatened to get the Jan Sangh to attack him. In
> 1977, a
> determined Mukta rushed back from her native village where she had been
> packed
> off, to tell the police that she wanted to marry Iqbal, who lived in the
> neighbouring chawl. He had 20spent the night in the Colaba lock-up after
> her elder
> brother had filed a complaint.
>
>
>
>
>
> In 1993, when the city was still raw from the
> riots, Padma had to stand and watch as a local inspector warned her
> boyfriend
> that next time he got a complaint from her college principal about his
> hanging
> around the college he would break his legs. What was a nice Hindu girl
> like her
> doing with a Muslim, the inspector asked Padma, leering at her bare legs.
> Did
> she think this miya would allow her to display them if they got married?
> Conscious of his duty as a Hindu, he even called up her family to inform
> them
> what their girl was up to.
>
>
>
>
>
> Padma went ahead and married Abbas regard
> less,
> only to be threatened by her own aunt from Delhi, who couldn't take the
> sight of
> her niece in a burqah. "You two won't get away with this. I'll see to it
> that
> they come for you," she warned.
>
>
>
>
>
> Last year, the mysterious death of Rizwanur
> Rehman in Kolkata, the computer graphics teacher who was married to an
> industrialist's daughter, shocked the nation. But long before that
> Kolkata's top
> police officers proved that they were no different from Mumbai's
> communalised
> force. Marxists have always known that their ideology did not prevent
> their own
> comrades from having strong communal prejudices.
>
>
>
>
>
> Sometime in the 70s, left activists Bhair
> avi and
> Bilal fell in love in Baroda. Bhairavi could handle her parents'
> hysterical fear
> that their Patel clan wouldn't leave their daughter alive. What shattered
> her
> was the reaction of their comrades, who thought the two were going "too
> far".
> Bilal, who had brushed aside all the occasions when he was not allowed
> into the
> kitchen by many of his comrades' mothers, suddenly realised that for a
> Marxist,
> casting off religious identity wasn't enough. The world continued to look
> at him
> as a Muslim.
>
>
>
>
>
> This was brought home to him again in the 92-93
> riots, when he had to flee Mumbai with his little daughter. It was ironic
> that
> it was the same kind of violence
> that had made him lose faith and turn
> "fanatically atheist". In 1969, as a Std X student, Bilal fled with his
> family
> to the Muslim basti as his house was looted and set on fire by boys he had
> known
> as family friends. He never prayed again. So in the 58th year of our
> Constitution that promises freedom of religion and equality before law,
> here's
> wishing Chaitali Shah and Naeem Ansari a safe married
> life.
>
>
>
>
>
> -
> Jyoti Punwani
>
>
>
> Times News Network
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