[nukkad] So Honestly

["HOMI KAIKOBAD" <>]

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From: HOMI KAIKOBAD <homik@primenet.com>
To: nukkad-list@mumbai-central.com <nukkad-list@mumbai-central.com>
Subject: So honestly ...
Date: Wednesday, July 11, 2001 10:44 AM

SO HONESTLY ...

So honestly, why do you denigrate women? Do you do this unknowingly? Or is
the system so shut down you don't know the difference? Or you go who the
hell cares? Or you think you don't but in essence you do? Check yourself out
and see where you stand:

1. Did you take dowry to marry? ____Yes ____No
2. Is your wife subjugated to your mother? ____Yes ____No
3. Did you get preference over your sisters? ____Yes ____No
4. Do you have a kam-wali girl at home in India? ____Yes ____No
5. Does a woman come and do the chores at home in India? ____Yes ____No
6. Does your wife always cook and keep house? ____Yes ____No
7. Even when she is earning? ____Yes ____No
8. Do you hold all the money, even what she earns? ____Yes ____No
9. Did you get better education compared to your sisters? ____Yes ____No
10. If your parents died would you be the one to do agni? ____Yes ____No
11. Do you believe she is lucky to get you? ____Yes ____No
12. If your son marries will you expect a dowry? ____Yes ____No
13. Did you marry in your own caste, gotra? ____Yes ____No
14. Did you walk in front around the fire at marriage? ____Yes ____No
15. Did you think you should make the first move making love? ____Yes ____No
16. Would you be horrified if she reached and touched your crotch? ____Yes
____No
17. And you think it is OK to grab, caress her physically, even in fun?
____Yes ____No
18. Would it be horrifying if she said she slept with lovers before
marriage? ____Yes ____No
19. And it would be OK if you did? ____Yes ____No
20. Have you killed a girl fetus? ____Yes ____No
21. Someone you know has and you said nothing? ____Yes ____No
22. If she wanted to be panditani would you object? ____Yes ____No
23. If she voiced an unpopular opinion at a family gathering would you be
annoyed? ____Yes ____No
24. Do you think gay women are weird? ____Yes ____No
25. Would it upset you if she wanted sex every night? ____Yes ____No
26. Do you think having sex when she menstruates is unhealthy? ____Yes
____No
27. Bad, evil, a-shuddha, unnatural? ____Yes ____No
28. And it would upset you if thought that was the time she felt sexual?
____Yes ____No
29. Would it upset you if she experimented sexually? ____Yes ____No
30. Would you object if she watched male oriented porno? ____Yes ____No
31. And it would be OK for you to watch? ____Yes ____No
32. Would it be not OK if she refused to apply sindhoor? ____Yes ____No
33. Would you object if she owuld automatically inherit all you have?
____Yes ____No

There are an unbelievable 1273 more questions, and space and wanting to
throw up prevent editing in more.

RESULTS:
If you answered honestly YES to 5 or more you are biased. If you assented to
more than 15 you are a Pig and are set for a lonely old age.

SO WHAT NEXT?
If you are sincere, work to de-program. Publicly. Which is to say love her,
nurture her, fight with her, make love to her, have sex with her, travel
with her, read poetry with her as an Equal.

If you can do this in a year, take it as a good beginning.

One ground rule though. She takes preference over your mother. Right? Right.

Arya.















































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