[nukkad] Can't girls sense emotions?

[Harshal Chhaya <>]

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I am sure that in the larger sense, women are more caring and sensitive.
They can sense tension, fear and loneliness much better than men. Then why
can't they sense affection and love in a relationship? 

I have seen numerous relationships where the 2 people have very different
feelings. Usually, the guy has deeper feelings and feels more strongly about
the affair than the girl. Typically, they start off as friends. Then for
whatever reason, the guy thinks that the relationship has reached the
next level - more than friends. He starts romanticising the possibilities
and starts dreaming. Obviously, he starts acting differently too. 
Surprisingly, the girl does not notice. She still thinks that things are
the same and that they are still friends. Maybe she thinks that the guy
is just being friendly. 

Both sides mis-interpret the signals and result is quite often, heartbreak. 
If and when the guy gets around to vocalizing his feelings, he gets a
rude shock. 'But I thought we were just friends. What made you think
there was something more?'

Did the guy read too much into the hanging out, the giggling, the 
'I like to spend time with you' and the 'I miss you'? Or was she just
being her bubbly self? 

I have seen many guys go through this and can't help but wonder: Why
does this happen? Why can't they be clear in their feelings early
on? Why can't the girl notice the change? Why doesn't she realise that
the guy is taking the relationship much more seriously than her?
Doesn't she realise that his behavior with her is different than his
usual behavior?  

This is as excruciating to watch as seeing a moth drawn to a flame. The
observer knows the painful outcome but the moth is blissfully ignorant.

Is it in-built genetics? Or is it our social structure where guys
mis-interpret any overt sign of friendship by a girl as something more
substantial?

- 'shal

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