[nukkad] Are You Ready for Marriage?

[Amir 'Ali Mackwani <>]

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From: "Angel St, Jude" 
Date: Mon, 31 May 2004 01:45:13 -0400
Subject: [Batunimurid] Are You Ready for Marriage?

Are You Ready for Marriage?

Is getting married right for you? 
What do you need to know before you walk down the aisle?  
Take a closer look at yourself and the relationship before tying the
knot.

Why are you getting married?

Be honest and evaluate the reasons behind your engagement.

Write a list of pros and cons about your partner and your relationship.

Make sure you are not getting married to escape or avoid something.

Do you know and trust your partner's personal history?

The best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior. 
How has your partner behaved in past relationships? 
How have they behaved with you?

What has your partner learned about marriage from his or her parents?

Have you planned a marriage ? or just a wedding? 

Cake, flowers and fine china are all exciting, but 
there's more at stake than one day. 
Think about the next 50 years. 
Put at least the same amount of time and effort that 
you are using to plan your wedding into planning your marriage.

Develop an emotional prenuptial agreement with your partner, 
outlining how you'll handle children, money and division of labor.

Are you investing more than you can afford to lose?

Look at the cost of your relationship. 
If you have to give up your 
friends, career, or family, for example, the cost is too high. 

Have you identified and communicated your needs and expectations?

Know yourself. 
You can't determine if somebody is good for you if 
you don't know your own needs. 

Express your needs and expectations now ? 
not when you're already in the marriage.

A few more thoughts:

If you have to talk yourself into getting married, 
don't do it! You may get there at some point, but not now.

Remember that you don't just want to be married; 
you want to be happily married.
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Hi Angel,

Thats a good advice on marriage, but you forgot the most important point.
That both parties should be also ready for a Compromise in their lives
together. That would make it a good marriage

Salim

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