Re: [nukkad] Happy marriage

["aryaone" <>]

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Indian Rediffji writes:
> There is nothing wrong in having dowry - provided the girl's father is
well-to-do and is willing to pay the amount. I would suggest to the girl's
father that he should donate that entire amount to some worthy charity (how
to find such a charity in India is a separate e-mail and thread altogether).
>

there is everything wrong with dowry whether the man can or not.

it reeks of the kotha for one, except here the man is for sale.

> Other ways in which dowry slimes in is via material gifts. The girl's
father is forced to buy '40 sovereigns of gold' make it into jewelry and
give it to daughter. Next thing you know m-i-l is wearing the stuff. Or buy
a car/flat/scooter etc. Buying steel vessels, silver vessels, lots of
sarees, gifts for the boy's side guests etc.>

where is love then, the adventure of a new life together?

sala blackmail sanctioned by reet riwaj and havas and haram khori.

> I would recommend that BOTH girl's side and boy's side should split all
expenses for the entire wedding and bedding 50-50. The Parsis have it right.
When you go to attend a Parsi wedding, you are (sometimes quite rudely)
asked as you sit for a meal whether you are from the girl's side or boy's
side. At the end the caterer bills both sides separately based on the number
of guests that attended.>

stale, dull but not dowry.
>
> Dowry cannot be legislated away. The only way is to make the wimpy boys
more aware and hope that it gives up its death grip on society in about 2-3
generations - i.e., around 50-100 years.>

don't girls know it? they know they paid flesh money for the lout, much like
the mafia exacts. these are different times, and girls will soon get wiser
and reject.

but it should come from men.

> Unfortunately, in my wedding's case, my wife's side of the family paid for
the entire wedding (which is traditional). Thankfuly no dowry changed hands
(Actually there was no dowry for my mother either, nor her sister nor her
brother. All credit to my grandfather). She did get some jewelry - but all
of that is with her. >

then I who cares for no God or Guru or Devil, let me make vandana to such
wonderous souls.

Arya.




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