[nukkad] Dowry and hypocrisy

["Pankaj Gupta" <>]

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The list has been taken over a large part by hypocrisy. Many would say: I
did it, but wouldn't do it again! Hey, have you got a chance? Those who
aren't hypocrites are dumb enough to effectively say that women don't
deserve any of their parent's monies--not in their (parents') life-time,
atleast.

99 % of Indian populace doesn't its their will on paper. In any case, asset
division should occur at the time when transition is taking place, not at
the death of the parents. Do you want to say: the daughter shouldn't enjoy
her parent's wealth till they are alive? That is why, the question I raised
that why the woman should leave her parental home remains very pertinent.

At the time of marriage, the bride "should" get her share of the booty. The
problem isn't with dowry itself. The problem is, women in India (or
elsewhere) are always an insignificant other. If she has the control of the
assets, whatever the parents wish to part with for her, dowry would be a
complete non-issue. If the definition of dowry weren't: "The property that a
woman brings to her husband," and were, "The property that a woman gets on
her marriage," this would see a much fairer light.

Well, in the times of political correctness, I won't say I will accept or
give Dowry, but I will assure the bride her fair share, and "try" that it
remains hers and is used by her or at her consent (As homiji said, after
marriage, it's, afterall, their life!).

Regards,

Pankaj Gupta

----- Original Message -----
From: "indian rediff" 

>
> Talk about a fraudulent argument!
>
> There IS an existing way to ensure that all children get an equal portion
of the assets upon one's passing.
>
> It is THE WILL.
>
> When such an argument is proffered all you have to do is say 'Where there
is a WILL there is NO NEED for DOWRY".



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