[nukkad] The vote for Arya ji

["Ravi Menon" <>]

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Well Arya-ji here is my vote. Why did I not respond? the system of 
taking/giving is so reprehensible that I did not think the average educated 
person need even spend a moment thinking about it.

A system that had its origins many centuries - perhaps in Kerala and parts 
of North Eastern India was the Matriarchal family. The man married into the 
woman’s house/family and the woman lived in the security of her familiar 
surroundings. The idea there was the property belonged to the woman and her 
children and the man was a dependent. Of course there were instances of 
partiality and misuse of power by the head of the household. in principle it 
works well but corruption of society its values etc have led to a lot of 
Kerlaites taking dowry. the prevalent I am told has crept in from the 
Christian influence. I may be totally wrong here and I am quite willing to 
accept that I am wrong. if netgeek or some others could correct me. the 
Christian family's dowry system was the share the girl would receive. dowry 
however has become a vicious circle - a man takes dowry to pay his sisters 
dowry who offers dowry for her prospective sister in laws .. etc the cycle 
is never ending.

At the risk of sounding gross let me recount a little story that concerned a 
"friend". this "friend" a PhD from Banaras Hindu Univ was working as a post 
doc fellow in mumbai when I met him over the months of
our acquaintance he mentioned that he was looking fwd to a huge sum in 
dowry. another person who was listening in asked him a question that stopped 
him dead in his tracks.. the rest of us collapsed in laughter and the 
question was ...ur privates are they gold plated that u sell yourself like a 
......



Do you subscribe to dowry and will you marry your sons,
daughters, anyone else you are responsible for, accordingly?

[     ] yes, I subscribe to it.

[  X  ] no, I am against it.

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