Arranged MArriages - Pros & Cons

[Rajan Malhotra <>]

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Nukkies, Friends no one should feel offended by the
points mentioned below, lets just discuss the pros and
cons of arranged marriages and share our views. I am
sure there are lot of positives and negatives going on
in all this.

Arranged marriages
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Pros.
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1. There is a trust among the boy and girl from the
word go and positive approach is there.
2. Full family support from both sides is there.
3. The grip is stronger and the bond healthier if the
families know each other.
4. Boy and the girl can concentrate on other important
issues in life like career , studies and leave the
decision for marriage on the parents, in this way the
time neede to be spend on finding a life partner can
be utilised to do other important work.

Cons.
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1. The parents take the risk and the most important
decision for the boy and the girl.
2. Easy way out for the boy/girl as they don’t have to
do the hard work of finding someone
And working for the relationship.
3. The initial trust is between the families and the
elders involved, it is implied that the trust will
continue among the bride and groom, to what extent
this is true ?
4. Arranged marriages encourage caste system, seldom
we find parents or elders going out of their own
community/caste and finding someone.
5. Life partner is the most important person in ones
life, should he/she not be chosen by us ?
6. Dowry and heavy extortions from the girls families
are existing even in arranged marriages.
7. It encourages the dependence of children on their
parents and does not help in making an individual
identity.
8. There are lot of cases where boy/girl is born and
brought up in some other culture say western and still
they want to go by their parents choice to marry
someone who is born and brought up in indian culture,
what is the probability that such a relation will
work?


- Rajan





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